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Feeling Guilty About Moving A Loved One Into Assisted Living?

 

Feeling Guilty About Moving A Loved One Into Assisted Living?

As an adult child, you naturally want what’s best for your aging Mom. Just like she has always wanted the best for you, ever since you were tiny. So, why do you feel so guilty about moving your beloved Mom into assisted living? Deep down you understand that assisted living is the best option. Mom may understand that, too, but moving to assisted living is a major change, one fraught with emotion.

Everyone’s life and lifestyle are unique to them. Maybe you’ve been Mom’s primary caregiver for some time now and you are simply overwhelmed. You want to continue giving your all for Mom, but your own health and wellbeing are important, too. Conversely, maybe you’re feeling guilty because you haven’t been able to personally care for Mom as her needs increase.

Instead of considering yourself a “failure,” consider the facts. You’ve been seeing some troubling signs that indicate she needs a safer living arrangement where she can remain as independent as possible while getting as much care as she requires. In fact, you are performing the ultimate labor of love for Mom by helping her choose the very best assisted living community to fit her needs and personality.

Feeling Guilty About Moving A Loved One Into Assisted Living?Just Say No to Guilt and Yes to All the Positives

You and Mom are in this together, whether or not she is delighted with the move. By focusing on all the ways she will benefit, both of you can feel good about the decision. Here are some specific ways to do that:

1. Keep in mind that Mom doesn’t want you to feel guilty. Imagine if you were to open up to her and share the stress and guilt you’re feeling. What would she say? How would she feel? Chances are she would be saddened to know that you are feeling so much stress.

2019 Feeling Guilty About Moving A Loved One Into Assisted Living?2. Conduct in-depth research into assisted living communities. There are many different factors to consider, and every community is different. You and Mom can gain valuable peace of mind by doing your due diligence. Thoroughly research the best assisted living communities in your area. A good place to start is by making a list of “must haves,” “wants” and questions to ask each community. Think about location, price, and staffing (nurse to resident ratio, nurses on staff 24/7, etc.). If Mom’s faith is important in her life, be sure to ask if the organization is faith-based like Magnolia Manor.

Feeling Guilty About Moving A Loved One Into Assisted Living?3. Don’t promise the impossible. Resist the urge to suggest that assisted living is temporary, that you’ll be with her all day, or other extreme promises. You might want to be there 24/7 for Mom and spend all of your time with her in her assisted living home, but that isn’t feasible. Unrealistic expectations will only lead to disappointment for her and stress for you.

Besides, assisted living offers so many great expectations! Mom won’t be alone. She’ll be cared for and will have the company of other residents. That’s not to say she won’t be overjoyed when you visit.

Feeling Guilty About Moving A Loved One Into Assisted Living?4. Talk to someone. Whether it’s a spouse, clergy, friend who has been through the same thing, or a therapist, talking about your feelings can help you take an objective look at the situation. Even just saying your feelings out loud can help take a bit of the weight off your shoulders.

5. Learn about the process of transitioning to a senior living community so you can start planning Mom’s move into her new future.

We know that moving your loved one into assisted living can be a difficult time, and we are here to help. Magnolia Manor has nine uniquely wonderful campuses across South Georgia with caring professional staff who’ll attend to your parent’s needs with skill and affection.

We are proud to provide an environment where older adults enjoy a truly quality lifestyle that meets their social, spiritual, physical and mental needs in a caring atmosphere. Call us at 855-540-LIFE (5433) to speak with a member of our team and learn more about how we can help you and your loved one!

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